Your family is the smallest and yet most accurate depiction of life and society. The huge roles that everyone in the community play can be found in a simplified version within your loved ones. Everyone in your family is essential, even if you might not notice it.
The little baby in the household that can’t seem to do anything, is what relieves the parent’s burden brought about by the pains of daily life. The baby eliminates any form of stress accumulating in their hearts, and replaces them with pure happiness and joy. It is all a matter of give and take, one gives to the other, and subconsciously does the same vice-versa, making for a mutually beneficial relationship.
But this peace and harmony are frequently disrupted with day to day reality. Some families lose the special bond that once held them so tight, resulting in multiple disasters that could possibly traumatize the youth. It is the duty of the parents to properly mold the values and knowledge their children have, but some simply cannot accomplish it due to personal problems holding them in. Here are some tips as to how to regain your family’s ties to one another.
You, whether as a parent or as their son/daughter, need to uphold the bond of your family intact. This is especially difficult without proper guidance. But this is where instinct can aid us. It is hard-wired in our very brains to be social creatures, therefore always wanting to conform and belong to a group.
You can use this to your advantage by using an activity that your family enjoys as a spark. Try to observe the behavior of your family members. Are they athletic? Do they prefer to stay indoors? Do they enjoy travelling? Collecting as much information as possible is vital to avoid future misunderstandings, and to possibly provide a diversion to their problems.
After careful observation on your family’s preferences is made, comes the next step, communication. Arming yourself with their preferences cannot stand alone if you do not know the reason behind them. Think about it, why exactly does your older brother prefer to stay indoors and play videogames all day long?
For all you know, he might be even suffering from peer bullying and social awkwardness, resulting to an anti-social behavior. Your attention-hording, annoying little brother/sister might just be needing more love and attention from you, what with all the neglecting from his/her peers and loved ones.
Allot some time for your family to open themselves to each other. You can make a family night once in a week, a time for your family to just bond and talk, see a movie, or share your problems. A little effort made can mean a huge help to those in dire need.
Don’t make the atmosphere of your family to be a strict one, with the children not even allowed to speak and only obey the parent’s commands. Make it so that everybody will feel approachable any time. A little talk, no matter how girly it may sound, may go a long way for your family.
Improve and Take Action:
After understanding the situation everybody is in, comes the last step, action. Don’t just stay idle already knowing the problem, otherwise all of your efforts would have been a complete waste. Learn to give a solution to their current discomforts.
If your child finds it hard to express themselves to each other, practice with them. Have a friend over and practice simulating normal conversations, building up their confidence levels while also easing their doubts. Let them see that you are willing to help them and that you always have their back.
If your parents are having a hard time at work, do something about it. A child’s gift to a mother/father is ten times more effective than giving them pain relievers. A little distraction from all their work tension might do the trick in turning their frown upside-down.
It might not seem like much to you, but in the eyes of the parents nothing could compare to its value and preciousness. A gift from the heart will remain a long-lasting imprint in their hearts, possibly improving their mood at work, therefore improving their performance and their lives.
Don’t be afraid to try out unconventional methods, as these might have a good effect to the situation. You will never know the outcome unless you try it, and if you fail, that’s ok. You can always try again, your family is worth the countless tries in achieving success. Don’t forget to learn from each try, as their reaction will help you determine what went wrong in the long run. Don’t be obnoxious also to their feedback, if they find your intervention to be disturbing, then stop. Try to analyze the new situation and apply what you have learned.
Never give up when it comes to family. Don’t give in to your fear of the future, as nothing will happen if you remain idle. Remember that even if they don’t show it, your family will always love you with all of their heart, and you will always remain important in their lives. So do whatever you can to cultivate and make this love flourish till the end of time.